The Fallen Fruit

We are thrown into this life without experience — we are not given the answers; it is up to us to figure things out.

Take grief for example; there is no wrong way to grieve — for grief in itself is the evidence of your love for another — whether the loss of the loved one is deceased, or still alive (abandonment/divorce). 

I have dealt with loss in both scenarios. 

Dealing with the loss of a deceased loved one is hard, but you get closure on the relationship because they died, and it ended. 

Dealing with the loss of a loved one due to abandonment is impossible—because you don't get the closure you need. Many children are forced to grow up without a parent; most of which. never knew a parent's love.

These children grow up having to figure things out for themselves — mostly by pissing people off because they are cut, and they bleed on others (so to speak). 

Others search for answers; as they do, they get fed a ton of bullshit and/or told that they are strong because of what they've been through.

When people grieve, they do it without experience; the fact is their grief IS the experience. 

Likewise, those who respond them do-so without experience.

There is no right way or wrong way; we all express our experiences differently. We have every right to.

I recently saw a post that read "Cheers to the friend who let me talk about the same situation 582 times until I finally got over it"; that's the kind of love and friendship that helps heal a heart that never really heals...

Many of us deal with grief in silence—never allowing anyone into our inner-space or minds. We carry it everywhere we go and it affects our daily interactions—whether or not we are aware of it.

If you feel like you are the "fallen fruit", Let me assure you that all is well. This is where your spirit ripens and your heart (soul) becomes rich — like a peach that increases in vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. You are the genuine article — who is learning from experience and not afraid to love. You are right where you are supposed to be because you are a part of something great — and show that you have heart!

I will tell you, it is better to be the fallen fruit than the branch that is pruned, then picked up and tossed into the fire!

If you've come across this and struggling with grief, I encourage you to find a Grief Share Group or participate online. This will help you develop skills to deal with the heaviness of emotion, and enable you to experience joy once again.